I encounter this question through yahoo answer and so i thought “Am I afraid to be single forever?”
My answer is YES! Yeah, i am afraid to be single forever because that means that my dream to become a wife will not come true. Maybe i can be a mom but the idea of becoming a single mom is way far from my plans. I don’t want to be a single mom not because i am afraid to take all of the responsibility of the child but because i don’t want my child to have an incomplete family. I want him to have a home with a father,a mother, and siblings that will show him love, care, and shares his problems, pain, and happiness. I am afraid that when he grows up with me alone he’ll feel incomplete even if i already gave him everything i can. I know there will be a time that he’ll ask where his father is and find him to seek and feel the love from his dad and feel how it will be like to have a father beside him. Though to those single mom, I salute you for taking good care of your child and giving them the best that you can.
The quote “No man is an island” will be the answer to the question “why people are afraid to be single?”. A person wants to have someone beside them for the rest of their lives. Someone he can share his happiness, someone they can trust most, someone they can lean on in times of troubles, someone who cares, someone who will love them no matter who he is, what he did, no matter what happened, someone who will stay and support and love till the end of their lives journey.
You might say that “I do have my family” or “I do have my friends” that’s why your not afraid to be single. But lets face it, there will be a time that they’ll not be there because they have something, someone to attend to. Someone they choose for them to share their life with.
I know and understand that some people prefers to be single and live their life alone. Far from everyone, far from home. But i assume that there is a time that they will ask themselves “why am i alone or single?” or “why did i choose to be alone or single?”. God gave us life. He gave us situations that we have to choose from one thing to another that will bring us on the path from where our decision will take us. We actually have control with our lives. We choose what we think is right or what we think is good for us. Sometimes it is not what we wanted but what we think is right or what people around us thought will be good for us. In time you’ll say that “this is not the path i want to be” and you might lay the blame to those people who gave you such advices but you should not blame them as they just gave you things to choose from and the decision will still be in your hands.
I am not perfect and i know that there is a time that i blame other people that made my decision different but eventually i will understand and accept what had cause my decision and not regret it as things happened for a reason and that it has to happened for me to learn things.
